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Determining credibility in a YT creator
Andy Signore and the cult of Popcorned Planet
October 08, 2022
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Audio format Any YT creator that’s been around for a minute has their detractors, it’s the name of the social media game. Before you decide to spend time, energy and money on them, it’s a good idea to sort of look beneath the hood and kick the tires before jumping on the bandwagon.

What follows is a “cult checklist” because if you decide to back/follow a creator it can result in you being inducted into what amounts to a cult.

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  1. Putting things out there for public consumption whether it be videos or blog posts, there should be an overall theme for people to resonate with. If it’s murky, creators should be open to questions. Heck, they should be open for questions anyway - it’s the only way to enter into civil discourse. If questioning isn’t allowed, run away as fast as you can.

  2. If YT creators are lucky enough to be monetized, take a moment to calculate just how much they may be pulling in. Some just have ad revenue while others also have memberships, sometimes different tiers of membership. If they also push and push for tips/donations, lock your wallet up tight. If they straight up ask the viewers to pay for things like a “producer fund,” I have questions. Those questions multiply if there are multiple GoFundMes and Amazon lists being shared.

  3. Vague references to “people out to get them” is a huge warning sign. Keep in mind that we see the world how WE are rather than how it actually is. Be wary of buying into their world view.

  4. For whatever reason, many creators do have videos/articles/tweets from detractors. Don’t be quick to dismiss them out of hand.

  5. A leader also uses his co-leaders to make this point. While they may pretend to entertain notions of being fallible to the public and even within the group, a deeper probing will lead to the fact that they won’t truly admit to not being right.

  6. Again, co-leaders and those that head up his “tribe” (perhaps including moderators on YT) are used by a leader to keep the community at large in the dark while also pretending to pander to their wants & needs. Dissention may be sown to keep the group a little off balance for easier manipulation. This also makes it easier for the leader to keep an iron grip on "truth" and disways folks from looking deeper.

  7. If you find yourself defending the leader/creator and have no real idea why except for “well he’s a nice person and people are mean” you might just be under the influence of a cult leader. Take a step back!

  8. Ditto - it’s called a “persecution complex” and the leader/co-leaders will feed into this while also claiming they don’t want drama.

  9. I think this is covered in 7 in that followers seem to somehow feel compelled to protect leadership. While it feels normal & natural, it’s anything but. A red flag should pop up if you find yourself parroting leaderships’ words.

  10. Oh yes, justification is a big one. It’s okay for leadership to say/be/do something but not for others, especially detractors. 

  11. People with more than two brain cells to rub together will eventually get wise to the cult & its leaders. They will think “how could I have been so deluded?” They will feel shame and embarrassment. This is not only natural, it's also very understandable. Many detractors will accept you if you reach out. These detractors didn’t detract just to be dramatic bullies, they were attempting to warn others as best they could. They are the strongest amongst those that have escaped the cult and want nothing more than to stand vanguard against the cult in order to protect more vulnerable targets.

Cult leaders are usually narcissists

While it can be argued that many/most YT creators have narcissistic tendencies, if they’re not self-aware it can become a problem. Especially for those that become entrenched in their communities. So before you decide to dive into any YT community, think about the following (if the aforementioned cult checklist didn’t do it for you).


A brief list of narcissistic traits:

  • Being overly boastful, exaggerating one’s own achievements

  • Pretending to be superior to others

  • Lack of empathy for others

  • Looking down on others as inferior

  • Monopolizing conversations

  • Impatient, angry, unhappy, depressed or has mood swings when criticized

  • Easily disappointed when expected importance is not given

  • Always craves for “the best” in everything

  • Has a very fragile self-esteem

Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.

When deciding whether to follow YT creator, you probably aren’t going to be looking at any sort of intimate relationship so your inner alarm system may be delayed or not go off until those around you become uneasy. It can be quite insidious. You may think it’s just you. You tend to go along to get along or to protect the community at large. You could find yourself behaving in ways that are actually contrary to who you are. It’s okay - they make a living fooling people. Consider the following:

 

Dealing with a narcissist: Don’t fall for the fantasy (Link)

Narcissists can be very magnetic and charming. They are very good at creating a fantastical, flattering self-image that draws us in. We’re attracted to their apparent confidence and lofty dreams—and the shakier our own self-esteem, the more seductive the allure. It’s easy to get caught up in their web, thinking that they will fulfill our longing to feel more important, more alive. But it’s just a fantasy, and a costly one at that.

Your needs won’t be fulfilled (or even recognized). It’s important to remember that narcissists aren’t looking for partners; they’re looking for obedient admirers. Your sole value to the narcissist is as someone who can tell them how great they are to prop up their insatiable ego. Your desires and feelings don’t count.

Look at the way the narcissist treats others. If the narcissist lies, manipulates, hurts, and disrespects others, he or she will eventually treat you the same way. Don’t fall for the fantasy that you’re different and will be spared.

Take off the rose-colored glasses. It’s important to see the narcissist in your life for who they really are, not who you want them to be. Stop making excuses for bad behavior or minimizing the hurt it’s causing you. Denial will not make it go away. The reality is that narcissists are very resistant to change, so the true question you must ask yourself is whether you can live with this indefinitely.

Don’t beat yourself up too much - it really isn’t you, it’s them. You got caught up, it happens. What matters now is how you move forward. And you’ve learned some valuable lessons - congrats!!

Just a little thing I recently discovered that I think that describes the blind believers of Andy’s crap & enable him to keep doing it:

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Former (supposed) FBI agent Jennifer Coffindaffer says some ridiculous things on X regarding the Karen Read trial (amongst others). This one caught my eye yesterday:

Let's break it down:

The Top Ten Reasons why I can't Wait for the Karen Read trial to be over:

1-Tired of all the dissent in the True Crime Community. 

Most of those in the "True Crime Community" realize that, at the very least, the investigation was sorely lacking thus engendering feelings of a whole shit ton of reasonable doubt. People who truly believe Karen Read is guilty should be mad as hell at disgraced former trooper Michael Proctor yet they're not. I find this incredibly odd. It's almost like they agree with his whole "pin it on the girl" strategy.

2-Tired of trying to explain that there is 0 proof that an ATF Agent (who has his job and was not reprimanded in anyway much less accused of murder), a 30+ year Boston Police Officer (featured on Boston's Finest and retired with distinction about 2 years After the crime), a dog (sent to Vermont months after the crime due to a fight she had with another dog), and a minor (not even worth mentioning) Murdered John O'Keefe and brilliantly threw him in their front lawn.

So, stop trying to excuse ... er, explain stuff regarding people you don't even know. Higgins is on desk duty (last we heard, anyway), Brian Albert has a history of beating people up, a dog whose owners called the poor girl "it" and made her disappear the night of the incident only for her to reappear then end up being "rehomed," and a thug in the making. Btw, it's curious that you, of all people, knew where Chloe supposedly was when even the defense team didn't. The rest of us learned during her "mom" Nichole Albert's testimony well into trial #1. Another oddity, IMO.

3- Tired of listening to Alessi. 

I'm so sorry that Alessi is too smart and well spoken for some to understand. Personally, I'm tired of Hank Brennan's incessant whining. 

4- Tired of watching Karen Read's courtroom antics. 

No idea what you're talking about here. Do you mean her being an active and valued member of her own defense team?

5- Tired of reading all of the dribble from those who haven't watched the trial but pretend they have.

I think the word you're looking for is "drivel" and those who rebut you probably *have* watched the trial, you just don't like their viewpoints. Many also probably watched some, if not all, pretrial (especially for this second trial). I certainly have. The CW's own ME said Ofc O'Keefe's injuries were inconsistent with a motor vehicle strike. What are we even doing here?

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I'm tired of people who think that cops running a crappy investigation is A-OK as long as whoever they deem to be the "bad guy" gets put away. I'm also tired of people shitting on our US Constitution and using the Bill of Rights to wipe their ass.

And number 10: Tired of watching a spoiled one continue to mock the death of a wonderful soul named John O'Keefe.

Nobody finds humor in the death of OFFICER John O'Keefe. Many see the tragedy in that some of his fellow brothers in blue didn't give him the honor he was due by conducting a proper investigation, exploring all avenues, in order to figure out what truly happened to him. Instead, he was just "a man," "the guy," and, ultimately, the victim. He's not even referred to as a Boston Police Officer in much of the CW's case. 

I will continue to advocate for justice in this case because it's the right thing to do.

Justice means not trampling over someone's rights. It means recognizing shoddy police work. It means not rushing to judgement. It means a thorough and proper investigation. It means not resorting to trickery in an attempt to secure a conviction. It means not ignoring inconvenient truths. 

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Commonwealth of MA vs Karen Read retrial
The more things change the more they stay the same.

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James "Whitey" Bulger and Hank Brennan

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Hank Brennan, Adam Lally and Laura McLaughlin

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Jen McCabe

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This case is an absolute clusterfuck and, so far, the prosecution has not proven a damn thing, IMO. We're over 3 weeks in and the jury has not heard what John's actual cause of death was determined to be. In this way, Brennan's bunny hop approach resembles Lally's slogfest in trial 1. Emily D. Baker has some excellent daily briefs if you want to follow along.

Remember: The truth does not change. Data doesn't lie, people do! FREE KAREN READ

*The US constitution only guarantees a fair trial for those accused of crimes not for the bodies accusing them.

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"A Rising Tide Lifts All Boats" FKR
Feed your soul, not the trolls

I write not to just inform people but also to express my frustration, fear, even anger. I'm generally not an angry person but my capacity to endure foolish behavior is at almost nil. I'm old, I don't have time for that shit. 

Recently I spent the day watching Dean Schneider and his Hakuna Mipaka lion pride down in South Africa. His interactions with them touches my soul. The vlogs of the building of Brian Barczyk's LegaSea Aquarium and Reptarium are a never miss for me. I also enjoy Rocky Kanuka of "sitting with dogs" fame who is in dog rescue in California. I find animal rescue, preservation and conservation uplifting. And people who follow true crime absolutely need to take time out for anything that feeds their soul because, for the most part, true crime is not that.

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I prioritize protecting my peace so I approach X very cautiously, only reading those I follow and have notifications turned on for. The first step I take in disengagement is to turn off those notifications. Next would be unfollowing then, if necessary, muting. I'm sure my mute list is formidable because I also mute those I've never followed. Blocking is the last step and I pretty much only block those that block me first. 

As I stated in the beginning: I'm old and don't have time for this shit. These days I rarely indulge in X spats. I'm more apt to take a few passive/aggressive swipes from afar. While I enjoy having followers/viewers my self-worth is not tied to them. My blog articles and sometimes subsequent videos are expressions that are necessary to me. I only write/record when I feel compelled to do so. This is the lens that I use when observing other people's works. It's a shame that some feel the need to denigrate others rather than giving them the same grace, especially when they're on the same damn side. This denigration is akin to "gate keeping" which I find highly distasteful and somewhat disgraceful. All this does is feed the trolls and make you look like idiots which stains the whole FKR movement, IMO. Remember, "a rising tide lifts all boats."

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